13 min 22 sec

The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul

By Danielle Laporte

A guide to redefining success by prioritizing how you want to feel over what you want to achieve, leading to a more intentional and soul-centered life.

Table of Content

Most of us have spent our lives following a very specific script for success. We set a goal, we work incredibly hard to reach it, and we cross it off our list. Then, almost immediately, we set a new goal and start the cycle all over again. But have you ever noticed that the satisfaction of reaching the finish line often evaporates within minutes? We hit the target, but we don’t actually feel the way we thought we would. This is the central paradox that Danielle LaPorte explores in her work. She suggests that we’ve been going about life completely backward. We focus on the achievement, but what we’re actually chasing is the feeling we think that achievement will provide.

In the following pages, we are going to explore a radical shift in perspective. Instead of starting with what you want to do, you’ll learn to start with how you want to feel. This isn’t just about being happy; it’s about identifying the specific, soul-level emotions that drive your best work, your best relationships, and your best self. This is the concept of ‘Core Desired Feelings.’ By uncovering these, you create a personalized internal GPS that can guide you through career changes, health choices, and daily habits. We’ll look at how to break down your life into manageable categories, how to distinguish between a rigid goal and a fluid intention, and how to make sure that your ‘to-do’ list actually serves your spirit. It is a journey from the external world of metrics and milestones to the internal world of desire and fulfillment. Let’s begin by looking at why the traditional way of setting goals might be failing you.

Have you ever wondered why you want what you want? Explore the underlying emotional drivers that make certain achievements feel more important than others.

Success isn’t one-dimensional. Learn how to evaluate your life through five distinct lenses to ensure every part of your existence is aligned.

Discover the process of narrowing down your broad desires into specific, resonant words that act as a personal compass for your life.

Learn why flexible intentions are more powerful than strict goals, allowing you to stay focused on the feeling while the details evolve.

How to protect your energy by setting boundaries and finding the balance between wanting more and appreciating what you have.

The journey of desire mapping is ultimately a journey back to yourself. We live in a culture that is obsessed with the ‘next big thing’—the next promotion, the next purchase, the next milestone. We are taught that happiness is something we earn through effort and accumulation. But what we’ve explored here suggests a much kinder and more effective reality: that fulfillment is available right now, provided we are willing to listen to our own internal cues. By identifying your Core Desired Feelings, you stop living by a generic template and start living by your own soul’s design.

As you move forward, remember that this isn’t a one-time exercise. Your desires may evolve as you grow and change, and that’s okay. The map is a living document. The most important thing is the commitment to check in with yourself regularly. When you feel out of sync, don’t look for an external solution first. Instead, ask yourself: ‘How am I wanting to feel right now, and what is one small thing I can do to move toward that feeling?’ It could be as simple as taking a deep breath, changing your posture, or saying no to an invitation that doesn’t resonate.

Your life is not a list of chores to be completed; it is an experience to be felt. By putting your feelings in the driver’s seat, you transform your goals from heavy burdens into joyful expressions of your true nature. You deserve to live a life that feels exactly how you want it to feel. Start today by picking one word—just one—that represents how you want to feel in your heart of hearts, and let that word guide your next decision. When you align your doing with your being, everything else starts to fall into place.

About this book

What is this book about?

The Desire Map challenges the traditional approach to goal setting by suggesting that the most important part of any objective is the feeling it produces. Most of us are taught to chase external markers of success—promotions, titles, and material gains—only to find ourselves feeling empty once we arrive. This book offers a different path: identifying your Core Desired Feelings first and using those as a compass for every decision you make. Through a process of self-reflection and lifestyle design, the book promises to help you align your outer life with your inner truth. It covers five key areas of life and provides a framework for turning vague desires into concrete intentions. By the end, you will understand how to build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, shifting your focus from 'doing' to 'being.'

Book Information

Rating:

Genra:

Motivation & Inspiration, Personal Development, Religion & Spirituality

Topics:

Goal Setting, Meaning, Mindset, Purpose, Spirituality

Publisher:

Sounds True

Language:

English

Publishing date:

January 1, 2014

Lenght:

13 min 22 sec

About the Author

Danielle Laporte

Danielle LaPorte is an author and business owner who took an unconventional path to success by opting out of formal schooling to pursue a self-directed learning journey. Deeply interested in the mechanics of achievement and personal fulfillment, she has shared her insights through various platforms and is the creator of the well-known work The Fire Starter Sessions.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

3.8

Overall score based on 69 ratings.

What people think

Listeners find this work life-altering, offering a novel outlook on reaching objectives and helping identify fundamental values and desires. Furthermore, the workbook is considered useful and perceptive, motivating listeners to implement changes and discover their core desired feelings. The writing style is also highly regarded, with listeners valuing Danielle LaPorte's specific method and viewing the content as a worthwhile investment.

Top reviews

Prasarn

Wow. This book is essentially a roadmap for the soul that I didn't even know I was searching for. Most self-help guides focus on the 'what' and the 'how' of achievement, but Danielle flips the script by asking us to identify our core desired feelings first. The truth is, we don't want the fancy car or the promotion for the objects themselves; we want them because of how we think they will make us feel. This realization was life-changing for me. The workbook section is incredibly practical and helps you dig through the layers of social expectations to find your own truth. It feels sacred, almost like a conversation with a higher version of yourself. While some might find the style unconventional, I thought the layout was beautiful and inspiring. It is well worth the investment if you are ready to stop chasing empty goals and start living with real intention.

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Rungtip

Danielle LaPorte speaks directly to the soul in a way that feels both modern and ancient. I have read hundreds of personal development books, but this is the first one that felt like a bible for my inner life. The idea that we should plan our days based on how we want to feel is revolutionary in its simplicity. After years of numbing myself to meet external expectations, identifying my Core Desired Feelings felt like coming home. I’ve started applying this to my business, and the shift has been incredible; I no longer feel like a slave to my to-do list. The book is vibrant, intense, and unapologetic. Some critics mention the unconventional formatting, but I found the bold layout to be a visual representation of the author’s passionate energy. It is a magical experience for anyone who is ready to reclaim their authenticity and live a more abundant, heart-centered life.

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Taweesak

This book arrived at exactly the right moment in my life when I was feeling lost and choiceless. I was stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage and grief, but the exercises here helped me see a path forward that wasn't just about 'grinding' harder. Not gonna lie, I was skeptical of the 'woo-woo' vibe at first, but the results speak for themselves. Identifying my values through the lens of feeling has made me much more grounded and truthful with myself and others. I love that it’s not a one-size-fits-all system; it’s a framework that you fill with your own story and your own shadows. It’s an investment in your own well-being that pays off every time you open the workbook. For me, it wasn't just a book—it was a permission slip to be exactly who I am, Gemini traits and all. Absolutely amazing and life-altering for those who are open to it.

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Dao

Ever wonder if you are actually chasing the wrong things in your career and personal life? I picked this up because I was feeling burnt out despite hitting all my major milestones. The Desire Map offered a fresh perspective by centering my core values and emotional state rather than just another checklist. To be fair, the writing style is a bit 'woo-woo' and very emotive, which might alienate analytical types who need concrete data. However, if you can get past the fragmented sentences and the bold, shouting fonts, there is some real wisdom to be found in these pages. I especially appreciated the workbook portion, which forced me to be honest about my relationship with money and success. It isn’t a traditional read, but it is an effective tool for anyone in a period of transition who feels a burning desire to change their direction.

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Surasit

Finally got around to sitting with the workbook portion of this, and I have to say, it is quite insightful. I originally listened to the audiobook, which was a great experience because Danielle has a very commanding and soulful voice, but the physical book is necessary for the exercises. The process of narrowing down your desires is harder than it looks but totally worth the effort. In my experience, most goal-setting programs are too rigid and leave no room for the human spirit. This book changes that by making your internal state the priority. My only real gripe is that the writing can be a bit repetitive, and the author tends to ramble in a way that feels a bit unorganized. Still, the core message is powerful enough to overcome the stylistic quirks. It helped me reconnect with my motives and stop pursuing goals that were making me miserable.

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Ket

After a decade of traditional goal-setting and corporate ladders, this book felt like a breath of fresh air. It challenges the toxic idea that we have to suffer now to be happy later. Instead, LaPorte suggests we can feel how we want to feel right now, during the process. The focus on 'Core Desired Feelings' helped me realize that my pursuit of a specific salary was actually a pursuit of 'freedom' and 'security.' Once I knew that, I could find other ways to manifest those feelings immediately. The layout is definitely unique—lots of big fonts and poetic fragments—which I actually found helpful for skimming and re-reading. It isn't for everyone, especially if you want a linear narrative, but for the spiritually awakened woman, it’s a goldmine. I’ve already gifted copies to several friends who are struggling with their 'shoulds' and looking for more joy.

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Sebastian

Picked this up on a whim and was surprised by how much it resonated with my emotive side. As someone who often feels overwhelmed by traditional productivity systems, the non-linear approach here was actually quite relieving. I stopped focusing on the 'milestones' and started asking myself how I wanted my morning to feel, which completely changed my energy at work. The writing is very vocal and intense—Danielle doesn't hold back, and her 'no-bullshit' spirituality is refreshing. Some parts felt a bit rambling and the Christian undertones mentioned by others were a bit odd, but the overall impact was positive. It’s a great tool for uncovering what you actually value versus what society tells you to want. If you can handle a style that is more 'artistic' than 'academic,' you will get a lot out of this workbook.

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Lena

Look, I get the hype, but I think the delivery of this message is a bit hit-or-miss. The central premise—that our feelings should drive our goals—is a fantastic insight that I have already started implementing in my daily routine. However, the execution of the book itself feels a bit thin on actual substance. It’s very much a collection of 'post-it note' wisdom and artistic flourishes rather than a deeply researched psychological theory. Personally, I found the author’s tone to be a bit privileged at times, and I wasn't a fan of how she occasionally seemed to dismiss the complexities of mental health. It’s a quick read because there isn't actually that much text on the pages due to the massive font sizes and frequent line breaks. If you want a pretty, inspiring workbook to spark some reflection, this is great. Just don't expect a rigorous or systematic guide to life planning.

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Diego

Gotta say, the layout made this a struggle to get through even though I loved the underlying message. The 'theory' half of the book felt more like a collection of inspirational quotes than a developed argument or guide. To be fair, the idea of checking in with your feelings before setting a goal is a brilliant shift in perspective that I will definitely keep using. But why do we need six different fonts and constant bullet points to say that? It felt like the author was trying to be 'edgy' with the graphic design, but it mostly just felt unedited and scattered. It’s a very quick read, mostly because half the pages are blank or just have one sentence on them. It’s a decent coffee table book for inspiration, but for $20+, I expected a bit more depth and a lot less white space.

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Som

The typography in this volume is a total disaster and made the reading experience incredibly frustrating for me. As someone with a background in design, I found the constant shifting between four or five different fonts on a single page to be chaotic and unnecessary. It felt like I was being yelled at by a series of fragmented PowerPoint slides rather than reading a cohesive book. Frankly, the 'theory' section is almost non-existent, replaced instead by poetic snippets and sentence fragments that never quite develop into a full thought. The core concept of chasing feelings rather than external goals is a solid idea, but it could have been explained in a short blog post. There is so much white space here that I felt like I was paying for empty paper. If you prefer a logical, systematic approach to personal growth, this non-linear mess will likely drive you up the wall just as it did for me.

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