18 min 28 sec

Be Where Your Feet Are: Seven Principles to Keep You Present, Grounded, and Thriving

By Scott O'Neil

Discover how to cultivate presence, resilience, and authenticity. Scott O'Neil shares leadership lessons and personal stories to help you focus on what truly matters in work and life.

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We live in an era of unprecedented connectivity, yet many of us have never felt more distracted. We juggle emails during dinner, scroll through social media during meetings, and perpetually worry about the next big thing while the current moment slips through our fingers. It feels as though we are constantly making trade-offs, sacrificing time with our loved ones for our careers, or neglecting our own personal growth to meet the demands of a hectic schedule. This constant tension can leave us feeling hollow and disconnected. But what if there was a way to integrate our professional ambitions with a deeply fulfilling personal life?

Scott O’Neil, a seasoned sports executive who has navigated the highest levels of the NFL, NHL, and NBA, offers a compelling solution. His philosophy is simple yet profound: you must learn to be where your feet are. This isn’t just a catchy phrase; it is a discipline that requires us to commit our full attention and energy to whatever we are doing at this very moment. O’Neil argues that the same principles that drive success in the boardroom—authenticity, resilience, and teamwork—are exactly what we need to flourish in our private lives.

In this summary, we will explore O’Neil’s journey through the highs and lows of the sports industry. We will look at how a public dismissal from a dream job became a catalyst for personal transformation, and how lessons from a boy band partnership and a viral video of water buffalo can reshape our approach to leadership and community. By the end, you’ll see that living a passionate and authentic life isn’t about avoiding the trade-offs of reality, but about choosing to show up fully for the life you have right now. Let’s dive into how we can stop living in a haze of notifications and start living with intention.

Discover how a major career setback led a top executive to find the true value of undivided attention and the cost of digital distraction.

A story from the islands of Tonga reveals how identifying what truly matters can help you make difficult sacrifices and live with integrity.

Learn why failure is an unavoidable part of any ambitious life and how to transform setbacks into a roadmap for future success.

Through a dramatic wildlife analogy, O’Neil explains why the most successful leaders are those who prioritize the collective good over individual gain.

Explore the life-changing power of giving others the benefit of the doubt, illustrated by a moving story of a young woman’s discovery about her past.

Using the ‘Process’ of the Philadelphia 76ers as a backdrop, this idea examines why true success requires grit, patience, and a refusal to seek shortcuts.

As we wrap up our journey through the philosophy of Scott O’Neil, it becomes clear that ‘being where your feet are’ is a multifaceted discipline. It starts with the decision to be fully present, stripping away the digital haze to give our undivided attention to the people and tasks right in front of us. It continues with the courage to identify what is most important to us, allowing our core values to act as a compass even when they demand difficult trade-offs.

We’ve seen that failure is not a sign to quit, but an invitation to learn and fail forward. We’ve learned that the strongest communities are built by ‘water buffalo’—those who take responsibility for the collective good and handle even the smallest tasks with care. We’ve explored the healing power of assuming good intentions in others, and finally, the necessity of trusting the process and embracing the long, often difficult path to true success.

These principles are not just for high-powered sports executives; they are for anyone who wants to live with more passion and authenticity. If there is one actionable takeaway to leave you with, it is this: take a moment today to reflect on your recent mistakes. Write down three errors or setbacks you’ve experienced and, for each one, identify one specific lesson it taught you. This simple exercise helps turn regret into wisdom, ensuring that you are always moving forward, no matter where your feet currently stand. By showing up fully and living intentionally, you turn the ordinary moments of your life into something truly extraordinary.

About this book

What is this book about?

Be Where Your Feet Are explores the philosophy of living with total intention. Drawing on his high-stakes career as a top sports executive, Scott O'Neil illustrates how to navigate the inevitable trade-offs of modern life. The book offers a roadmap for finding success and fulfillment by staying grounded in the present moment. Through a series of personal anecdotes and professional setbacks, O'Neil provides a framework for identifying your core values, embracing failure as a growth tool, and fostering a culture of teamwork. The promise of the book is a more passionate, authentic existence achieved by simply showing up fully for your family, your colleagues, and yourself.

Book Information

Rating:

Genra:

Mindfulness & Meditation, Motivation & Inspiration, Personal Development

Topics:

Gratitude, Mindfulness, Purpose, Resilience, Self-Awareness

Publisher:

Macmillan

Language:

English

Publishing date:

February 14, 2023

Lenght:

18 min 28 sec

About the Author

Scott O'Neil

Scott O’Neil is one of America’s most widely regarded sports executives, with more than 25 years’ experience in the NFL, NHL, and NBA. Formerly the CEO of the New Jersey Devils and Philadelphia 76ers, and the President of Madison Square Garden Sports, O’Neil lives in Pennsylvania with his wife and daughters. This is his first book.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

4.1

Overall score based on 266 ratings.

What people think

Listeners find the work absorbing and straightforward to grasp and implement, highlighting impactful life lessons and identifiable narratives that resonate on both an emotional and intellectual level. They value the steady rhythm and regard it as a pleasant experience. While the caliber of writing draws varied feedback, many consider it well written.

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Arjun

Finally got around to reading this after seeing it all over my feed, and I have to say, Scott O'Neil’s perspective is surprisingly grounded for someone in his position. While I am not a massive sports fan, the core concept of being present resonated deeply during my hectic morning commute. The 'purple water buffalo' concept was a standout moment that made me rethink how I present myself in daily office interactions. Sure, he mentions his famous friends quite a bit, but the emotional core of putting family first feels universal and sincere. It is a quick, engaging read that doesn’t feel like a heavy lecture, which I really appreciated after a long day. If you need a reminder to slow down and stay in the moment, this is it.

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Dimitri

Wow. I did not expect a high-level sports executive to be this open about his own personal struggles and the constant pressure of staying present. The heart-breaking testimonies included—especially the more tragic stories from his circle—really put my own minor daily stressors into a much-needed perspective. It is rare to find a leadership book that tackles the 'soul' aspect of productivity without feeling overly cheesy or clinical. I have already started implementing the 'Assume Positive Intent' rule in my personal life, and it has already changed my communication style for the better. This book is a beautiful, vulnerable reminder that even the people we see as indestructible are just humans trying to find their balance. It is well worth the time.

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Anna

Look, I will be the first to admit that I usually roll my eyes at 'thriving' guides, but this one actually stuck with me long after I finished. The title alone is a simple mantra I have started using daily to stop myself from spiraling about the future or dwelling on my past mistakes. O’Neil writes with a sense of urgency and warmth that makes the advice feel like it is coming from a trusted mentor rather than a distant boss. The chapters on 'Trust the Process' gave me the permission I needed to stop obsessing over immediate results in my own fitness journey. It is intellectual enough to be interesting but simple enough to apply immediately after putting the book down. Truly a transformative and powerful read for my current stage of life.

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Maya

After hearing about this guide from a colleague, I expected a standard, dry business manual, but it is actually a much warmer guide for purposeful living. The pacing is excellent, and the seven principles provide a solid framework for anyone feeling overwhelmed by their digital schedule. I found the 'WMI' (What’s Most Important) chapter particularly useful for filtering out the daily noise of my middle-management job. To be fair, the constant name-dropping of NBA stars and high-level executives got a bit repetitive and felt unnecessary after a while. However, the underlying message of failing forward is something we all need to hear more often in our careers. It is an enjoyable read that connects on both an intellectual and emotional level.

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Wachira

Ever wonder how the busiest people on earth stay sane while managing high-stakes organizations and professional sports teams? Scott O’Neil attempts to answer that question, and for the most part, he succeeds with a very easy-to-digest and engaging writing style. I particularly appreciated the section on being mindful of racial prejudice in America, which felt like a necessary and authentic addition to a modern leadership book. Some of the principles felt a little like 'word soup' early on, but they eventually coalesced into a meaningful narrative about what it means to thrive. It is a grounded look at how to prioritize what actually matters when the world keeps demanding more of your precious time. I would recommend it to managers looking for a soul-searching exercise.

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Caleb

The chapter on 'Failing Forward' was exactly what I needed to read during a particularly rough patch in my own professional career recently. Scott O’Neil manages to connect on an intellectual level while still keeping the stories moving at a brisk, engaging, and very readable pace. While the name-dropping of athletes is undeniably frequent, the lessons he extracts from those high-pressure interactions are surprisingly humble and applicable to daily life. I enjoyed the focus on 'WMI' and how it helps narrow down your focus when every single task feels like a high-stakes priority. It is well-written and avoids the dry, academic tone that plagues so many other books in this specific leadership genre. I will definitely be passing my copy along.

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Bo

Not what I expected from a guy who ran the 76ers and Madison Square Garden, but I mean that in the best way possible. The book is heavily family-centered, and while some of it is pure common sense, it serves as a powerful reminder to unplug from our phones. In my experience, 'Assuming Positive Intent' is one of the hardest principles to master, yet O'Neil makes a compelling case for why it is vital for our long-term mental health. There is a bit of a 'Boy Scout' vibe to the writing that can feel a little disconnected from the real world for those of us who aren't CEOs. Still, the emotional weight of the testimonies kept me turning the pages until the very end. It is a truly enjoyable and thoughtful read.

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Jib

As someone who usually enjoys a good self-help book, I found the core message here valuable, even if the delivery was a bit clunky at times. There is a very strong religious undertone throughout the chapters that might not land well with everyone, particularly the frequent references to the LDS church. The sports analogies are laid on thick, so if you are not a basketball fan, some of the intended impact might be lost on you. I did like the focus on 'Purple Water Buffalo' and identifying what makes us unique in a crowded, competitive market. It is a decent read overall, but I wish there were fewer 'my good friend the CEO' stories and more practical tips for non-executives who can't just block out their schedules.

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Nikolai

This book unfortunately felt like an extended LinkedIn post written by a CEO who doesn't quite realize how different his life is from the average worker. O’Neil seems like a genuinely nice guy, but the constant references to his high-powered friends made it difficult for me to relate to his 'grounded' advice. Most of the suggestions are just common sense, like exercising and spending time with family, wrapped in a layer of corporate jargon and word soup. The homework sections at the end of each chapter felt like busy work and did not add value to the actual reading experience for me. If you enjoy reading about how successful executives manage their time, you might like this, but it felt a bit boastful for a self-help book.

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Sirichai

Picked this up hoping for a modern mindfulness guide, but it felt more like a recruitment brochure for a specific type of American corporate culture. The tone is often cloying and treacly, especially when the author describes his 'perfect' family life or his high-profile sports career in such a boastful way. I absolutely hated the exercise where you have to write a 'Leadership Constitution,' which just felt like a fancy, trite name for a standard mission statement. It is hard to take advice on being 'grounded' from someone who spends so much time listing his access to world-renowned stars and CEOs. In my opinion, the book comes off as slightly egotistical under the guise of being 'raw and vulnerable,' which made it hard to finish.

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