15 min 18 sec

You Coach You: How to Overcome Challenges at Work and Take Control of Your Career

By Helen Tupper, Sarah Ellis

Learn to navigate the modern professional landscape by mastering self-coaching. This guide provides actionable tools for resilience, time management, and relationship building to help you thrive on a non-linear career path.

Table of Content

Imagine for a moment that you had access to a world-class professional coach every single day. This person would be right there beside you as you walk into a difficult meeting, helping you frame your thoughts. They would be there at the end of a long week, helping you sift through your successes and your setbacks. Most importantly, they would be dedicated entirely to your growth, your mindset, and your unique path. While hiring a full-time personal coach is a luxury few can afford, there is someone who already has intimate knowledge of your ambitions and your fears: you.

We often look outward for guidance, waiting for a manager to notice our potential or for a mentor to show us the way. But the reality of today’s work environment is that it is no longer a straight climb up a predictable ladder. It is a winding, twisting journey—a squiggly career—where the old rules of progression don’t always apply. In this landscape, the most valuable skill you can develop is the ability to coach yourself. This doesn’t mean you have to have all the answers immediately. Instead, it means learning how to ask yourself the right questions and how to observe your own behavior with a sense of curiosity rather than judgment.

In the pages that follow, we are going to explore a framework for self-advocacy and personal development. We will dive into the six core areas that determine our professional well-being: how we bounce back from failure, how we view our own abilities, how we manage the finite resource of time, how we build our networks, how we move forward, and ultimately, why we do what we do. By the end of this journey, you will have a toolkit of practical strategies designed to help you quiet your internal critics, manage your energy, and navigate the complexities of modern work with confidence. This is about taking the steering wheel of your own career and realizing that you have the power to influence your own trajectory.

Traditional career ladders are disappearing in favor of winding paths. Discover how shifting your mindset allows you to find opportunity in the unexpected turns of a squiggly career.

Internal barriers often hold us back more than external ones. Learn to use the fly-on-the-wall technique and dismantle the three patterns of pessimistic thinking.

Time is a non-renewable resource, yet we often let others dictate how we spend it. Discover how to manage your monkeys and find your golden hour.

Your professional relationships are your greatest asset. Learn how to map your connections and use five-minute favors to build a robust support system.

Success is no longer just about the next promotion. Discover how to identify your core purpose and find growth in sideways moves.

The journey of self-coaching is not about reaching a state of perfection; it is about committing to a process of continuous learning and adjustment. By focusing on the six pillars we’ve explored—resilience, self-belief, time, relationships, progression, and purpose—you are building a foundation that can withstand the ups and downs of any career path, no matter how squiggly it may become. You are moving from a passive role in your professional life to an active one, where you are the primary architect of your own development.

As you begin to apply these tools, remember that your most important asset is your energy. You cannot coach yourself effectively if you are running on empty. This is why the authors suggest a practice called “Switch-off Sundays.” In our hyper-connected world, the lines between work and life have become dangerously blurred. We are often “on” seven days a week, responding to notifications and thinking about Monday’s tasks. By choosing to completely unplug for a day—or even just a few hours—you give your brain the rest it needs to stay sharp and creative. It might feel uncomfortable at first to turn off your phone or step away from your inbox, but this space is where resilience is replenished.

Take the strategies you’ve learned here and start small. Pick one area—perhaps your management of time or your response to your inner critic—and commit to practicing one specific technique for the next week. Be curious about the results. Observe what works and what doesn’t, and then adjust. You have the knowledge, the tools, and the perspective to guide yourself toward a career that is as unique and dynamic as you are. The power to change your professional life doesn’t lie with your boss, your company, or the economy; it lies within your ability to coach yourself through every twist and turn of the road ahead.

About this book

What is this book about?

The modern workplace has moved away from the traditional corporate ladder, shifting instead toward what is known as a squiggly career. In this environment, the ability to guide your own development is more than just a bonus—it is a necessity. This summary explores how you can become your own coach by focusing on six critical pillars: resilience, self-belief, time, relationships, progression, and purpose. By adopting a growth mindset and utilizing specific psychological techniques, you can overcome common hurdles like the inner critic and burnout. The promise of this approach is a career that feels more personalized, more flexible, and ultimately more fulfilling. Instead of waiting for a manager or a mentor to provide the answers, you will learn to ask yourself the right questions to drive your own success and maintain control over your professional journey.

Book Information

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Genra:

Career & Success, Management & Leadership, Personal Development

Topics:

Career Planning, Coaching, Growth Mindset, Resilience, Self-Confidence

Publisher:

National Geographic

Language:

English

Publishing date:

June 1, 2022

Lenght:

15 min 18 sec

About the Author

Helen Tupper

Helen Tupper is the CEO of Amazing If and previously held executive roles at major corporations including Virgin and Microsoft. Sarah Ellis has a background in senior leadership at prominent companies like Barclays and Sainsbury’s. Together, they are the authors of the bestselling book The Squiggly Career.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

4.4

Overall score based on 428 ratings.

What people think

Listeners view *You Coach You* as a functional and motivating guide that supports individuals in handling today’s "squiggly" work lives through methodical self-coaching. They value the extensive collection of thought-provoking tasks and the manual-inspired design, with one listener describing it as an essential "textbook" for career advancement. Additionally, they highlight the clear organizational markers that enable people to pivot immediately to the parts most applicable to their present difficulties. They also find that the methods for strengthening resilience and prioritizing time are exceptionally helpful for moving forward in their professional journeys.

Top reviews

Varinee

Ever wonder if you could actually be your own mentor without spending thousands on a professional consultant? This book convinced me that self-coaching is not just a buzzword but a tangible skill. I loved the workbook-style layout because it forces you to actually engage with the material rather than just nodding along. The sections on time management were particularly eye-opening, especially the 'monk mode' concept for deep focus. However, you really need a physical copy; don't bother with the audiobook if you want to do the exercises properly. It feels like a career textbook that you'll keep coming back to whenever you hit a snag. Highly recommend for anyone feeling stuck in a 'squiggly' path.

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Aiden

Wow. I didn't expect a career book to be this transformative for my mental health, but the focus on resilience really hit home. Instead of focusing on roadblocks, the prompts encourage you to think about what you can control, which is incredibly empowering. I love the idea of aiming to be just 1% better every day rather than trying to overhaul your entire professional life in a week. The distinction between 'thinkers' and 'doers' helped me realize why I often stall on projects—I’m a chronic over-thinker! Now, I use their visible post-it note trick to keep me moving. It’s a beautifully designed book that feels like a supportive friend guiding you through the chaos of modern work life.

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Thitiwan

Finally got around to reading this and I’m genuinely impressed by how much ground Helen and Sarah cover. Most career books focus on one niche, but this handles everything from time management to finding your purpose without feeling scattered. The 'Golden Hour' concept has helped me reorganize my mornings so I’m doing my most taxing work when I’m actually alert. I also appreciated the honesty about 'purpose anxiety'—the idea that you don't need a single, perfect answer for what you want to do with your life. It’s a workbook that actually works, provided you’re willing to put in the time to reflect. It’s become a staple on my desk for when I need a quick boost of confidence.

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Riley

Picked this up on a whim during a particularly stressful month at work, and the advice on 'managing your monkeys' was worth the price alone. I realized I was taking on everyone else's problems and calling it 'helpfulness' when it was really just burnout waiting to happen. The authors, Helen and Sarah, have a very approachable tone that makes complex psychological concepts like growth mindsets feel easy to implement. I’ve started doing the Switch-off Sundays they suggested, and the difference in my Monday morning energy is actually noticeable. It’s not a perfect book—some chapters definitely feel like filler—but the actionable tools are fantastic. It’s practical, empowering, and doesn't demand that you have everything figured out immediately.

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David

As someone who has always felt a bit guilty about not having a 'straight' career path, this was a breath of fresh air. The concept that progression doesn't always mean a promotion or a corner office is something I desperately needed to hear. The book is packed with different 'prototype' moves like job shadowing or volunteering that can help you grow sideways. I particularly appreciated the signposting at the beginning, which allows you to jump straight to the resilience or self-belief sections depending on what you're struggling with that day. It's a very active read, so keep a pen handy. My only gripe is that it can feel a bit overwhelming with the number of exercises provided.

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Woramet

The chapter on relationships and friction was exactly what I needed to navigate a difficult situation with my current manager. The book helps you identify if you're an 'activator' or an 'avoider' when it comes to conflict, and that self-awareness has already changed how I approach meetings. It’s a very practical manual that treats career development as a continuous journey rather than a destination to be reached. I found the 'COACH' acronym (Clarity, Options, Actions, Confidence, Help) to be a really useful mental checklist for problem-solving. It’s a bit repetitive in the middle, and the influencer-style quotes are a bit much, but the actual tools are top-tier for self-improvement.

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Grace

To be fair, I went into this expecting another fluffy self-help book, but it’s actually quite rigorous in its approach to self-improvement. The 'Switch-off Sundays' might sound radical to some, but as a chronic workaholic, it was the wake-up call I needed to prevent total burnout. I also liked the 'monk tactic' for deep work, though it’s harder to implement in an open-plan office than the book suggests. The writing style is punchy and encouraging, which helps you power through some of the more difficult reflective exercises. While I could have done without some of the celebrity name-dropping, the framework for navigating a 'squiggly career' is incredibly relevant for today's job market. Definitely worth a read.

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Frida

This book is clearly aimed at the Instagram generation, which might be a bit grating if you prefer more academic or science-backed career advice. I found the constant quotes from celebrities like Lady Gaga and Beyoncé a bit distracting and occasionally shallow. That being said, the core framework is surprisingly solid for what it is. The 'squiggly career' metaphor makes a lot of sense in today’s volatile market where the old corporate ladder is basically extinct. While some of the advice feels repetitive if you've read a lot of productivity books, the specific prompts for self-reflection are useful. It’s a decent starter guide for younger professionals, though seasoned managers might find it a bit light on depth.

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Pongpan

Truth is, I think this book is most valuable for people just starting out or those in their first five years of a career. For those of us who have been in the trenches for a decade or two, some of the advice feels a bit like 'common sense' wrapped in pretty packaging. The section on time tactics like Pomodoro is classic productivity 101, which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but I was hoping for something more revolutionary. However, the 'Career Community' exercise—breaking down your network into connections, counsel, and confidants—was a great way to audit my professional relationships. It’s a solid 3-star read for me; helpful but not exactly groundbreaking if you're already a fan of the genre.

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Chamnong

After hearing so much buzz about 'You Coach You' on LinkedIn, I decided to give it a go, but I made the mistake of getting the audio version. Frankly, this is a book that demands to be written in, and trying to do the 'purpose mind-map' while driving was impossible. The content itself is quite good, focusing on how to manage your 'inner critic' and build genuine self-belief. I liked the advice on creating a 'to-think' list instead of just a 'to-do' list to clear out the mental clutter. I’ll probably buy a physical copy to actually do the work, because the 'active rest' section made me realize I’ve been burning the candle at both ends for way too long. Good info, wrong format for me.

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