20 min 56 sec

Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are So You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be

By Rachel Hollis

Break free from the self-limiting lies that hinder your growth. Rachel Hollis provides a roadmap for women to reclaim their power, abandon insecurity, and pursue their most ambitious dreams with confidence.

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and told yourself that you’ll never really be successful? Or perhaps you’ve whispered to yourself that you aren’t a good enough parent, or that your best days are already behind you. If these thoughts sound familiar, you are certainly not alone. Millions of women across the globe are caught in a cycle of believing lies about their own worth, their capabilities, and their future potential. These lies act like invisible chains, holding you back from the life you were truly meant to lead.

But here is the foundational truth that changes everything: You, and only you, are the person in charge of your own life. This isn’t just a motivational slogan; it is a profound reality that carries both immense weight and incredible freedom. It means that while you cannot control every circumstance that comes your way, you have total authority over how you respond to them. Whether you are struggling with your career, your self-image, or the daily grind of family life, the power to shift your trajectory lies within your own hands.

In this exploration of Rachel Hollis’s insights, we are going to pull back the curtain on the deceptions we tell ourselves. We will look at why we struggle to keep commitments to ourselves and how that erodes our self-confidence. We will examine the importance of persistence in the face of rejection and why your dreams are worth fighting for, even when the world tells you to be more ‘realistic.’ We’ll even dive into the messy, often ignored areas of life, like body image, intimacy, and the beauty found in diversity.

The goal here isn’t just to feel inspired for a few minutes. It is to equip you with a new mindset—one where you stop waiting for permission to be happy and start taking active steps toward your goals today. This is about moving from a state of ‘settling’ to a state of ‘becoming.’ So, let’s begin by looking at the small, daily ways we let ourselves down and how we can start building a foundation of integrity that begins with the promises we make in private.

Think about the friend who always cancels plans at the last minute. Now, realize that you might be doing the exact same thing to yourself every single day.

Rejection is often just a detour, not a dead end. Discover why the word ‘no’ should be the beginning of your journey, not the conclusion.

A fulfilling intimate life starts with the conversation you have with yourself in the mirror. It’s time to stop letting insecurity dictate your pleasure.

Stop waiting for the ‘perfect’ time when everything is under control. Learn why the most beautiful moments happen when you stop fighting the mess.

Self-love isn’t just about accepting where you are; it’s about respecting your body enough to give it the care it deserves.

Living in a bubble of people who think and act just like you is safe, but it’s also stagnant. Discover how diversity expands your soul.

Fantasies aren’t just for kids. Learn how a clear, vivid image of your future can provide the fuel you need to endure the hardest days.

As we wrap up this journey through the principles of reclaiming your life, it all comes back to a single, inescapable reality: you only get one shot. You have one life to live, one heart to give, and one legacy to leave behind. It is far too easy to let the years slip by while you wait for circumstances to be perfect, or for someone else to give you permission to be great. But the ‘perfect’ time will never come, and no one is coming to save you. You have to be the hero of your own story.

Stop tolerating a life that is less than what you truly deserve. Stop believing the lie that you are defined by your mistakes, your weight, or your current bank balance. Those are just snapshots in time; they are not the final destination. The power to change your story begins the moment you decide that you are responsible for your own happiness. This means stopping the habit of breaking promises to yourself. It means persisting when everyone else says ‘no.’ It means finding joy in the chaos and looking for the lessons in diversity.

One of the most important things you can do today is to stop comparing your ‘behind-the-scenes’ footage with everyone else’s ‘highlight reel.’ Social media and societal pressures create an environment where we feel we are always falling behind. But you are not in a race with anyone else. The only person you should be trying to outdo is the person you were yesterday. Focus on your own growth, your own health, and your own relationships.

Take a moment to identify one lie you’ve been believing about yourself. Is it that you aren’t smart enough? That you’re a bad mom? That you’ll never be able to afford your dreams? Once you name that lie, replace it with a truth and an action. If the lie is that you aren’t disciplined, prove it wrong by keeping one small promise today. If the lie is that you’ll never succeed, start visualizing your success with such clarity that it becomes inevitable. Wash your face, dry your tears, and get back in the game. You were made for more than just getting by; you were made to thrive. Now, go out and live like you believe it.

About this book

What is this book about?

Have you ever felt like everyone else has their life together while you are just barely keeping your head above water? Girl, Wash Your Face is a direct challenge to the internal narratives that suggest we aren't good enough, thin enough, or capable enough. Rachel Hollis identifies twenty specific lies—from the belief that we should be further along in our careers to the idea that we are defined by our past mistakes—and replaces them with actionable truths. The promise of the book is simple yet transformative: you, and only you, are responsible for your own happiness. By examining her own stumbles and successes, Hollis demonstrates how to stop breaking promises to yourself and start living with intention. It covers everything from improving your physical health and sex life to navigating the chaos of motherhood and the corporate world. It is a call to action for anyone ready to stop making excuses and start building a life they actually love.

Book Information

Rating:

Genra:

Motivation & Inspiration, Personal Development, Religion & Spirituality

Topics:

Mindset, Motivation, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, Spirituality

Publisher:

HarperCollins

Language:

English

Publishing date:

February 6, 2018

Lenght:

20 min 56 sec

About the Author

Rachel Hollis

Rachel Hollis is a prominent motivational speaker, the founder of the popular lifestyle website TheChicSite.com, and a mother of four. As a devout Christian, she blends faith-based encouragement with a high-energy approach to personal development. In addition to her non-fiction work, she has authored the Girl series of novels, which follow the life of an events planner in Los Angeles, and the cookbook Real Life Dinners.

Ratings & Reviews

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3.8

Overall score based on 128 ratings.

What people think

Listeners describe this as an essential listen for women, packed with actionable guidance and sincere observations. They enjoy the humorous elements, featuring anecdotes that elicit both laughter and tears, and find the material deeply relatable. Listeners also applaud the author's transparency, with one listener mentioning how she incorporates her own life stories into the narrative.

Top reviews

Duang

I’m not usually one for self-help, but Rachel’s voice really cut through the noise for me during a very difficult month. She writes with a level of raw vulnerability that feels like a late-night chat with a best friend who isn't afraid to tell you the truth. Some of the stories about her early career struggles made me laugh until I cried. If you need a kick in the pants delivered with humor, this is a great pick. It reminded me that I am actually in control of my joy.

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Cooper

Wow, this was exactly what I needed to hear during a rough season of motherhood where I felt totally lost. Rachel Hollis is incredibly authentic about the messy parts of her life, and her honesty made me feel less alone in my struggles. The stories are genuinely funny and her writing style is so conversational that I finished the whole thing in two sittings. I loved the practical tips on starting small, like just drinking more water or making a gratitude list every morning. It helped me realize that I’ve been letting my excuses run the show for way too long. Some critics say she’s too privileged, but I found her journey from a small town to where she is now to be inspiring. She doesn't claim to have all the answers, but she does offer a hand up to women who are tired of feeling stuck. This is a must-read for any woman who needs a reminder of her own strength.

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Chaiwat

Finally got around to reading this after seeing it everywhere, and I have to say, the hype is mostly justified. Rachel Hollis has a gift for making you feel like you’re capable of anything, provided you’re willing to put in the work. I loved her honesty about the "lies" we tell ourselves, particularly the ones about our bodies and our value as mothers. Some of the chapters made me laugh out loud, while others really forced me to look at my own habits. While the advice about diet pills in her past was a bit shocking, she uses it to show how far she has come. To be fair, she is very wealthy now, but she doesn't hide the fact that she worked incredibly hard to get there. The book is a great reminder to stop waiting for permission to live the life you actually want. I finished it feeling refreshed and ready to stop making excuses.

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May

After hearing so much buzz on social media, I finally decided to dive in to see what the fuss was about. The structure is clever, with each chapter tackling a specific lie we tell ourselves, such as "I'm not good enough" or "I should be further along." I appreciated the focus on female friendship and how we often stand in our own way when trying to build a community. To be fair, some of the advice is pretty standard self-improvement fare that you've likely heard before. However, the author has a way of polishing these concepts so they feel fresh and actionable for a busy lifestyle. I did find the sections on weight loss a bit questionable given her lack of professional background in that area. Still, for a quick, motivating read that pushes you to stop being a victim of your circumstances, it hits the mark.

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Maksim

As someone who struggles with perfectionism, the idea of "washing your face" and just starting over resonates on a deep level. I appreciated how each chapter debunked a specific lie, making the book very easy to navigate and refer back to later. The tone is high-energy and relentlessly positive, which might be too much for some, but it worked for me. I’ll admit that the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" message is a bit simplistic and ignores social nuance, yet the message about personal accountability is something I think many of us need to hear. Her stories about parenting and the chaos of daily life were the highlight for me because they felt the most honest. It’s not a perfect book, and some of the stories are a bit repetitive, but it’s a motivating tool. I came away feeling energized to tackle my goals.

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Yuwadee

Personally, I think the value you get from this book depends entirely on your own life stage and current mindset. If you are a young mom feeling overwhelmed by the expectations of society, Rachel’s "good enough" attitude might be a lifesaver. On the other hand, if you’re looking for nuanced advice on career growth or mental health, you’re going to be disappointed. The writing is snappy and the anecdotes are often humorous, but the privilege is hard to ignore at times. She tells you that you are the only one in control of your life, which sounds great until you consider people dealing with actual crises. I did like the focus on drinking water and self-care as a starting point for bigger changes. It’s a very "Instagram-friendly" version of empowerment that feels a bit superficial. It’s a good read for a few laughs and a quick motivational boost.

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Kenji

The truth is, while some parts were genuinely motivating, others left me feeling a bit cold and disconnected from the author's world. Hollis is an engaging storyteller, but her "just do it" attitude can feel dismissive toward people facing real, external obstacles. I enjoyed her humor and the way she isn't afraid to look silly, which makes her feel more like a real person. But then she’ll mention her husband’s high-powered career or a fancy event, and the relatability vanishes instantly. The chapter about her early relationship was the most difficult to stomach. Not everyone has the resources she does to just "decide" to be successful or happy. It’s a decent book for a quick pep talk if you’re already in a good place. Just don't go into it expecting deep philosophy or inclusive perspectives.

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Arnav

Ever wonder why every influencer is obsessed with this book? After finishing it, I can see the appeal, though I have some major reservations about the content. Hollis is a master of the "girl boss" aesthetic, and her writing is catchy and very easy to consume. However, I couldn't help but notice how much the advice mirrors other self-help gurus without adding much original thought. The story of her first year with her husband was particularly cringe-worthy and didn't seem like the "romance" she tried to frame it as. I also winced every time she referred to her friends as her "tribe." It feels a bit like a collection of inspirational Pinterest quotes bound together with personal anecdotes. It’s fine for a light read on a plane, but don't expect it to change your life if you've already read basic self-help. It’s entertaining enough, just take the advice with a grain of salt.

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Fon

Picked this up on a recommendation, but I found the medical and diet advice incredibly problematic for a mainstream book. The author speaks about using diet pills until she was hallucinating, and while she says she stopped, the tone felt almost nostalgic for the weight loss. As someone who has struggled with body image, her "tough love" approach to fitness felt more like shaming than actual encouragement. Additionally, the advice she gives about marriage is concerning, especially the story about how she "won over" her husband after he treated her poorly. Why are we teaching women that they need to endure disrespect to prove their worth? The whole book feels like it was written for a very specific demographic of middle-class women who don't have systemic issues to worry about. If your biggest problem is that you don't drink enough water, you'll love this. If you’re looking for something with actual substance, look elsewhere.

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Siraporn

This book felt like a series of humble brags disguised as empowerment, and I struggled to get past the first few chapters. It is hard to take life advice from someone who seems to view her massive privilege as a simple result of "working harder" than everyone else. The way she describes her relationship with her husband was particularly alarming; marrying someone who ignores you at bars isn't a romantic victory, it’s a red flag. I also found the constant use of the word "tribe" to be incredibly grating and out of touch. Frankly, the "bootstraps" mentality ignores the systemic realities that many women face every day, from poverty to mental health struggles. Washing your face won't fix a broken system or a toxic partner. It felt more like an Instagram feed in book form than a guide to living a better life. I ended up feeling more frustrated than inspired by her stories of red carpets and diet pills.

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