Give and Take: A Revolutionary Approach to Success

Finally got around to reading this after seeing Grant's TED talk, and it really shifts your perspective on professional success. Not gonna lie, I used to think that you had to be a bit of a shark to get ahead in a competitive industry. This book proves that 'otherish' givers—those who help others but also look out for their own interests—actually end up at the top of the heap. The stories about Adam Rifkin and the power of dormant ties were particularly eye-opening for me. It’s a rare business book that offers a roadmap for being both successful and a decent human being simultaneously. Highly recommended for anyone who feels like they’re constantly being taken advantage of at work.

Wow, it’s rare to find a business book that actually makes you want to be a better person instead of just a richer one. Gotta say, the chapter on 'bloomers' and the self-fulfilling prophecy of teacher expectations was incredibly moving and applicable to leadership. It’s fascinating how givers see potential in everyone and how that investment eventually pays off in ways matchers can't replicate. The writing is engaging and flows much faster than your typical academic text. I’ve recommended this to my entire management team because we need more 'reciprocity rings' and less internal competition. It’s a thought-provoking read that genuinely expanded my mind to new possibilities in networking.

Adam Grant has essentially written the modern-day version of 'How to Win Friends and Influence People,' but with actual data to back it up. In my experience, the most successful people I know are the ones who are constantly connecting others without asking for anything in return. Seeing that behavior validated by research was incredibly satisfying and gave me the confidence to keep being helpful. The examples of Freecycle and the power of community norms were especially inspiring. It’s a book that celebrates the best of human nature while providing a shield against those who might try to exploit it. If everyone read this, our work cultures would be significantly healthier and more productive.

As someone who has always felt like a bit of a pushover in corporate settings, this was a revelation. Personally, I found the distinction between being a 'selfless' giver and an 'otherish' giver to be the most practical takeaway. Grant explains that you don't have to be a doormat to be a kind person; you just need better boundaries. The concept of the 'giver sandwich'—where givers occupy both the bottom and the top of the success ladder—makes so much sense. I’ve already started implementing the 'five-minute favor' rule in my daily workflow. It’s a solid, well-researched guide that helps you understand your own nature without feeling like you need to change your entire personality.

Ever wonder why the loudest person in the meeting usually gets their way but rarely stays at the top? Look, this book explains that dynamic perfectly by contrasting 'takers' like Ken Lay with genuine 'givers' like David Hornik. I loved the practical tips on how to spot a faker by looking at their LinkedIn recommendations or their use of 'I' versus 'we' in interviews. It’s a must-read for business majors who want to understand the long-term impact of reputation. My only complaint is that it gets a bit repetitive toward the middle. However, the overall message is powerful enough to overlook the occasional fluff. It’s definitely changed how I approach new professional introductions.

The advice on avoiding burnout is worth the price of the book alone. No doubt, many givers end up exhausted because they don't know how to say no to takers. Grant’s exploration of the sunk-cost fallacy and ego threat was brilliant, especially regarding how takers often double down on bad decisions to save face. I appreciated the practical strategies for protecting your time while still being a helpful resource for your colleagues. The writing style is entertaining and weaves real-life stories with theory in a way that keeps you turning pages. It’s a great tool for anyone in a high-pressure job that involves a lot of emotional labor and collaboration.

Picked this up on a recommendation from a mentor and found it to be a thought-provoking read that challenged my cynical views. Grant weaves real-life stories with psychological theory in a way that remains entertaining throughout. I’ll admit that I found the distinction between 'selfless' and 'otherish' givers particularly useful for my own career development. It explains why some people get exploited while others thrive. While some parts felt a bit repetitive, the practical advice for building a reciprocity-based network is something I can actually use. This is a solid read for anyone starting out in business who wants to maintain their integrity while climbing the ladder.

While I appreciate the optimistic message Grant promotes, I found the heavy reliance on anecdotes a bit frustrating. The author spends a lot of time painting givers as the ultimate victors, but some of the supporting research feels outdated. I wasn't entirely convinced by using LinkedIn connection counts as a primary measure for genuine human connectivity. Truth is, the book feels like it’s bending over backward to prove a point rather than conducting a rigorous investigation. It's a nice sentiment, but the methodology occasionally left me wanting more. I still think it's worth a read for the core idea, just take the 'science' with a grain of salt.

This book sits in that weird space between rigorous social science and pop psychology. Frankly, it feels a bit like Grant decided on his conclusion first and then cherry-picked the data to support it. The categorization of humans into three static groups—givers, takers, and matchers—is a bit too simplistic for my taste. People are far more complex and context-dependent than this framework suggests. That said, the ideas about avoiding burnout by 'chunking' your giving were quite helpful. I also enjoyed the section on how seeking advice can be a powerful form of influence. It’s a decent read with some good insights, but don't expect a foolproof scientific formula for life.

The premise that being generous leads to wealth feels incredibly out of touch with the reality of many marginalized groups. Grant writes from a position of massive privilege, and most of his examples involve well-off professionals helping other elite individuals. To be fair, he includes one story about a teacher in Philadelphia, but it feels like a token gesture in a book otherwise designed for the C-suite. He also largely ignores how gender socialization makes the 'giver' role an expectation for women rather than a strategic choice. For those of us in social work or non-profits, this feels like business-bro philosophy wrapped in a thin layer of altruism. It’s a very narrow perspective on kindness.